its been quite some time now…i knw am d worst blogger ever…dont thnk i even deserve d title blogger…oh well… #isityourblog hehehehe
so its like this, my mind is a very wonderful place and i was with Lami today and we were talking about the colourful lives we lead….that’s a story for another day though.
so i been thinking about love, life and relationships recently. i knw, why bother right? like life isn’t complicated enough….smh….rme
it’s just funny how when ure in a relationship and the person ure with tells u they care so much abut u and they would never hurt u…fastforward to a couple of months down the line (average time period) and they singing a totally different tune. the everyday phone calls stop coming, the giddy feeling u used to experience just fizzles and all ure left with is the nervous anticipation of the inevitable end of the relationship and the billion dollar question, “what the hell happened?”. where did it all go wrong? what did i do? how? when? where? why?
but are there really answers? most times all u get is a “its not u, its me” or a “these things happen” or a simple honest “i have no freaking clue”.
i was on twitter earlier on and these thoughts crossed my mind and i realized that 140 characters weren’t enough to put it all down and so i remembered, i gota blog…matter of fact, i got 2. heheheehe
most times we dont miss the person we were with as much as we miss being in a relationship…u knw, being part of a couple, having that person that’s there for u not cos dey wanna but cos dey ended up with the title of being ur “partner”. dont get me wrong, am not saying having that special someone is a wrong reason for being in a relationship. am just sayin there’s gotta be more to a relationship than that.
some times u even gota look past the fact that he/she makes ur kness weak with just a smile, dat he/she makes u tremble by being so close to u. that just by a simple kiss, ur heart goes into overdrive n ure disoriented for a second or 2. sometimes u gota look past how they make u feel in ur heart and take a closer look at how they make u feel in ur head. how good are they for u, emotionally, physically, mentally.
and then we get to askin these very common questions which IMHO, don’t have any definite answer…..
how do we know we found the one?
who says its time to move on after a really horrible break up we thought we could never recover from?
how do we know wen we’ve fallen for someone and not the idea of them and wat ‘we’ would be like together?
how do we know we’re ready to love me again?
we could spend the rest of our lives pondering on a milli ‘how do we’ questions or we could just get up, brush ourselves up n say, yea i knw d fall was devastating n all but d climb wasnt half bad, matter’o fact it was exhilarating, refereshing, glorious, wonderful, beautiful….i wanna do it again and by golly, i will. after all, we owe it to ourselves not to dwell on d past but to look to a brighter beter future…one in whch we deserve to be happy and we actually strive to be, no matter d past hurt.
this was a random journey into the mind that is Kelechi Ohia. judge me not, am only human.
smooches me darlings
here’s to chuckin up ur deuces and moving on.
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